6CW Chat v7

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A nice and clean new thread for you all to dirty with your horrible minds

Umm well, I'm socially awkward so I didn't really like it unless its a certain type of music but some girl said hi to me and I said hi back but that was the end of that. Although when ever I tell people this they all call me an idiot.

I never liked nightclubs myself but when a girl makes the first move by engaging you, you go for it, you idiot

Idiot.

I have to admit, I've never ever pulled an attractive woman in a nightclub.

Unattractive women who make up for it by being slutty yes, but not the attractive ones. I feel I got the best of the deal TBH.

See no one told me that, I assumed she was just being nice. Like a friendly hello that you do when you see someone. xD

I didn't realize it meant she wanted me to talk to her. xD I just assumed if she wanted me to talk to her she'd have continued the conversation herself.

Idiot

Morning Bull - Morning all

I have only pulled once in a nightclub, nice girl from up north but a bit clingy and it didn't help I was seeing someone at the time

Yeah like she wasn't that bad looking either, but I just don't have the confidence to go over and speak to her. xD

We then went to another where I got hit on by a guy..so I left shortly after and went home.

Bull wrote:Yeah like she wasn't that bad looking either, but I just don't have the confidence to go over and speak to her. xD

We then went to another where I got hit on by a guy..so I left shortly after with him and went home.

You dirty dog you

Not quite +xD

I got really cheeped out so I decided to leave, don't plan on going back to be honest xD

I assume most people at the clubs are in for one night stands rather than looking for relationships?

That's a broad generalisation Bull, I met my wife at a bar and we are married 10 years, not everyone in these social settings just wants a One night stand

Yeah its just what I've heard around which is whats put me off it. As I'm not a one night stand sort of person.

But eh I regret not talking to her now. xD

That's what being young is all about Bull

Yeah I just wish I was more confident, I just struggle as I just assume they aren't interested so I don't bother for that reason. I'm a pessimist.

Bloody Hell Bull! Been sometime since I have seen you about on here... How's things.

Don't beat yourself up to badly, I didn't read the signals with this girl I met at a new years eve party a couple of years ago... To do this day, I could kick myself but I could of swore that she told me she had a BF as she pointed over to where a couple of guys were sat but that bit is a bit of a blur haha! 

I find that bar's and with nightclubs in particular, people there are looking but you'll find not everybody will be GF / Wife material as the night goes on. I struggle with my confidence too, well I'm much better than how I was 4/5 years ago but don't just limit yourself to night's out.

I hate nightclubs for meeting girls, they're too loud so you have to shout at everyone you talk to.

Will be doing the Power 5 today and a promo for Wood, will probably do another rumours one as at the moment I'm slightly out of ideas for what to promo for him.

xviperx wrote:I hate nightclubs for meeting girls, they're too loud so you have to shout at everyone you talk to.

You have to communicate via the medium of dance.

 Marky! More of a generic question - where do you usually find is a good place to meet girls apart from bars or nightclubs?

The internet.

pof.com worked for me last time I was single (was seeing 3 different women at the same time the summer before I met my wife) and is still a good place to meet women according to mates of mine.

I don't think there is one place that is better to meet girls than the next - The key is having the confidence to approach someone no matter the social situation - Alcohol obviously makes that easier but you may not necessarily get the 'kind of girl' you are looking for but practice makes perfect

My missus chatted me up, I'm a shy f**ker

Yeah I'm the same unless someone talks to me about my interests then I can hold a conversation however it tends to be things girls aren't interested in. :/

But yeah I can't dance either so when I go to clubs or when I went to the one I just sat somewhere in one of the booths.

Things are good Engima part from my love life xD, how have you been dude?

Its just it can get really annoying when you're out in public and see couples everywhere, it can just feel like you are being mocked.

Its not either that I limit myself to nights out, I use to have a little thing for one of my friends but that's severely cooled/I don't even know if we are friends anymore. But yeah its weird not being able to find my type of girl. :/ So I decided I'd go clubbing as I thought maybe something would happen. Little did I know something may have happened had I continued the conversation/understood that it was Que to go over and talk to her. xD

Bull you would definitely benefit from doing online dating.

I would do online dating but my issue is I'm a sucker for the whole teen romance idea, you know meeting the person face to face etc or going from friends to becoming more? I just love the idea of that and I really don't know why. Would probs explain why I love romantic comedies.

Bull you're making Viper sound like a relationship guru

I say get out there and sow your oats for a while

Then ditch that mind set and the romantic comedies and get some smut on

Spend some time meeting the wrong type of girls - It will work wonders for your confidence

xviperx wrote:I hate nightclubs for meeting girls, they're too loud so you have to shout at everyone you talk to.

Will be doing the Power 5 today and a promo for Wood, will probably do another rumours one as at the moment I'm slightly out of ideas for what to promo for him.

I could give you a steer for a promo but it would work better as a segment for the show

Just a question Bull, what kind of girl are you looking for, Nerdy, Goth, Girl nextdoor, plain jane?

All you would do with online dating is chat to see if you have the same hobbies, thus making it more likely to find the right woman. Apart from a profile picture, the first time you meet is your first face to face and at least you know you'll have stuff to talk about.

I once chatted to a woman because she quoted Anchorman in her profile, so I messaged her "I'm kind of a big deal" and went from there.

Well the type of Girl I like is somone who's a geek you know? Like interested in comicbooks, pop culture, understands my humor of using quotes all the time/making references, games etc.

Yeah I know what you mean I'm just afraid of being catfished if that makes sense? Like I've heard so many stories that it frightens me. :0

Yeah like I'm not the type to just out and make out with girls, I have a odd moral compass where I'd feel extremely bad about it.

Bull wrote:Yeah I know what you mean I'm just afraid of being catfished if that makes sense? Like I've heard so many stories that it frightens me. :0 

If you are thinking about using POF or anything like that... I believe you can search based on distance in miles if that's correct? If you keep things simple and say within 10 Miles as an example, I'm sure 8/10 times, you will be able to get enough info from any profile to find out if they are catfishing you or not. Usernames or reverse image searches can easily be done and usually you find out they are legit.

Then look for a Geeky Mormon, she will get you references and they don't do anything before marriage...sorted

I thought my current (kind of) girlfriend was a catchfish when I added her on Facebook from P.O.F...she had basically nothing on there and no friends but it just turns out she hates Facebook.

Luckily she wasn't and I deleted both P.O.F and Tinder for her...how romantic

But you still have your Grindr account, it must be love

I'm not looking for a Mormon xD I'm not against something before marriage I just think there needs to be sometime to know the other person before we get that far, it weird I know. :/

Yeah I dunno its hard to find girls who are interested in stuff like that and most which are seem to be emo/punks which I don't have an issue with but a guy like me has no chance with.

Also I'm scared to online date due to being afraid my friends will find my profile on those sites and think stuff.

Start hanging out at comic shops, join forums about your interest, meet people at conventions, you'll get what you want you just need to put yourself out there, I know it's easier said than done but you won't find a friend/girlfriend watching the notebook in your bedroom

I don't think online dating is that much of a taboo anymore as everyone seems to be doing it these days

The annoying thing is we have one comic book store here which recently opened but no one goes to as its too small. Forums would work but it could be really hard as well as chances are they'll have the same interests but not what I expect body wise?

Again only been to a convention once which was great and I really enjoyed it, was told someone was checking me out by a friend on the way out but never saw who or if they were or not. I'm just really shy and can struggle when talking to girls for some odd reason which is why I like the idea of friends being more which is always a bad thing if the other person doesn't feel the same. :/

Yeah I understand where you are coming from I just wish I didn't have such a lack of confidence. Which is really annoying as girls tend to be attracted to guys who are confident.

Yeah it might not be a taboo but I'm just scared of being made fun of as I care too much what people think of me.

Bull wrote:Umm well, I'm socially awkward so I didn't really like it unless its a certain type of music but some girl said hi to me and I said hi back but that was the end of that. Although when ever I tell people this they all call me an idiot.

Idiot

Bull wrote:Not quite +xD

I got really cheeped out so I decided to leave, don't plan on going back to be honest xD

I assume most people at the clubs are in for one night stands rather than looking for relationships?

I meet my missus at a club selling all drinks for s £1. Been together a long time.. i wilk figure it out...just over 20 years i think

I met my missus at work 15 years ago - We've been together 13 years, married for nearly 10 - We did not get on when we first met

Bull best advise i can give you is next time you out and about pick the lass that you find the most attractive in the place (and looks to he single) and go say hi.

Best case - you pull the lovely lass and get legend status with pals.

Worst case - she tells you to f off (and you will realise that it won't be that bad). Hearing this for first time sets you free.

I see what you mean, but its just so hard as I can't start a conversation with someone unless they start one with me first. Its just the way I think in that situation is if they want to speak to me then they'll continue speaking to me rather than waiting for me to go over. See its just I didn't realize that if a girl says hi to you in a club its meant to mean come over and speak to me rather than a casual hello which I thought it was like in any given situation when you see a stranger.

Bull wrote:Also I'm scared to online date due to being afraid my friends will find my profile on those sites and think stuff.

See, that means they'll have had to be searching for men on a dating website. So you'll always have the upper hand.

Just go onto www.pof.com and get up a profile. Costs literally nothing. List your hobbies, put up a picture, what you're after etc and wait for people to contact you.

"think stuff"

Bull, you can't live your scared of what anyone else thinks, otherwise you will have no life at all.

What you thinking?